Old Lad

A journey through old age

I’m just back from a reunion with a group I was at Medical school with. It marks 60 year since we all started at Liverpool and 55 years since we all graduated. There were 11 of us plus some partners. It set me thinking what is it that keeps us all in touch and enjoying meeting up after so many years – the bonds must be strong. One thing that occurred to me was that the experience of starting the Medical course was such an intense experience, and continued to be, that we all established deep friendships as a way of mutual support. The nature of the curriculum in Liverpool was that the first year was largely devoted to the study of anatomy. So consider the impact on a group of 18 year olds, straight from school, spending their days dissecting dead bodies. I suppose nowadays there would be anguished debate about our “Mental Health and Wellbeing”, but in reality we just got on with it and the friendships formed gave us support.

So what did we talk about? Lots of reminiscing as there always is at these events. Stories of life as junior doctors and a general agreement (I think) that although it was hard work we did have some fun. And fun seems in short supply in today’s NHS. As you would expect in a group of late 70 year olds we have all had experience of becoming patients ourselves with mixed feelings about how we were treated. Its interesting that a lot of my non medical friends think that because I am an ex doctor who worked in the NHS that I will somehow have some sort of privilege and be treated better than the average customer. Not a bit of it. Sadly the personal touch from colleagues has gone so, for example, the practice I followed of giving a colleague who I was treating my home phone number is but a distant memory, In terms of our fitness as a group we are not doing too badly – a few walking aids present – but there were some sad stories of others in our year who are not faring so well. We did eat and drink well and there was some talk of craft beers – and some sampling. There was a slight tinge of sadness for me because my late wife Anne used to enjoy these get togethers and after all she was an integral part of of my medical life. So we parted after 2 days and promised to meet again.

We met in Harrogate and I have to say I had forgotten what a nice place it is. The town centre has thankfully preserved most of its historic buildings from when it was a spa town and it does still have individuality in its shops and eating places. And if you are of a mind you can still “take the waters” foul smelling though they are. To me it was a welcome respite from all the terrible things going on in the world. If you are in need of a short break I can recommend it. And I travelled by train which I always enjoy, and even better all the trains ran on time!

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3 responses to “Reunions”

  1. Susie avatar
    Susie

    Really enjoyed reading your account of your reunion with many from your days in Medical School. I think it’s important to keep in touch and lovely to reminisce about your studies. Medicine has changed considerably in the decades since you qualified and so have the working conditions! My late husband was a doctor and would often recount his experience in Medical School and the early years of working in London hospitals.

    I think it’s sad and somewhat disappointing that as a retired doctor there is no special treatment from today’s medical professionals despite retired doctors having devoted their whole working life to the profession. My late husband not only gave out his homer telephone number to colleagues but would also on occasion give to parents of very challenging patients he was working with. It was not abused by the parents and only occasionally when they were in a state of desperation would they telephone my husband at home. He was totally committed to the NHS and to delivering an excellent service to all he came into contact with.

    Sadly, this was not reflected in the treatment he received from numerous doctors when his own health was deteriorating. For many years he never mentioned he was a consultant himself, but in his final years when he was suffering from excruciating pain he would mention certain medications that he felt would help to relieve his pain but he was ignored and told me that he found it hard to even get doctors to look up from their computers to listen to him!

    I’m pleased to read you are doing well and keeping active. I think it’s essential to keep body and mind active. Being outdoors and enjoying nature lifts the spirits no end and serves as a reminder that despite so much misery in the world we are so fortunate to live on this wonderful planet. Enjoy life and take care 🙂

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    1. robertdwalker267 avatar

      Thanks. Nice to hear from a Liverpool medic. Sadly I agree with you about how we are
      ( not) looked after by our colleagues. My late wife had several medical problems and eventually dementia. The care from my old practice was dismal! I’ve come to the conclusion that the current generation of medics think differently to us. It’s a sad prospect for the future. I’ll keep blogging!

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      1. talentedllama9bb704e271 avatar
        talentedllama9bb704e271

        Thanks for your kind reply. I haven’t replied to a blog before but noticed that not all my message was visible when you replied. It seemed to stop at ‘devoted their lives’. I usually use X or occasionally FB so not quite sure how the blog and reply works. Btw I’m not medically qualified, it was my husband who was the doctor. Also I live in the south west😊. Will read your other blogs now I’ve discovered your writing. Best wishes PS I was very sorry to read that your dear wife and you were let down by your doctor’s surgery. It’s a blessing she had you to look after her in her final days. Take care and yes keep up the blogging😊

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